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September 12, 2021
Lititz Funeral Home Joins The Buch Funeral Family
Three Locations Now Serve the Lancaster Area
Theodore “Ted” Beck announced that the Richard H. Heisey Funeral Home on Broad Street in Lititz has joined the Buch Family of Funeral Homes. After 40 years of serving Lititz and the surrounding community, Dick and Marilyn Heisey will be passing ownership of the funeral home to Ted Beck and Aaron Abbott to continue their legacy.
The new Buch~Heisey Funeral Home & Cremation Services in Lititz will join the existing Buch Family of Funeral Home locations in Manheim and Mount Joy. “By adding the Lititz funeral home, we believe that we are giving families in this area a real choice,” explained Ted Beck. “We’re doing improvements to ensure that our facility, along with the services we offer, are second to none.”
The purchase is a reunification of a funeral service legacy founded by Thaddeus S. Beck in 1898. At the time, the Lititz funeral home and the Manheim location were both under the ownership of Thaddeus Beck.
Ted Beck, Supervisor at the Lititz funeral home, will serve families at both the Manheim and Lititz locations. Aaron Abbott has been promoted to Supervisor of the Manheim location and will also serve as a licensed director in Lititz. Anne Heisey Brubaker will continue to help families as Service Coordinator. Dick and Marilyn Heisey will help out when needed.
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Bring their memory to the table Serve up a tasty reminder by preparing some of your loved one’s favorite recipes. Give a Thanksgiving toast or prayer that acknowledges the role that they played in your family’s lives. Consider creating a centerpiece made up of mementos from their life for the table. Or go around the table and ask each person to share something they are grateful for about the person who has died. Do something together to honor their memory There are many Thanksgiving Day events that your family can participate in to honor your loved one’s memory. Sign up for a turkey trot or charity walk. Watch one of their favorite movies together. Attend a remembrance service. Donate food or money in their name. Help to serve a Thanksgiving meal to families in need. Continue to share your memories Every family has their favorite stories and memories that they tell that highlight the unique personalities of each member. Be sure to continue sharing your memories and reminisce about those that you have lost. Whether it’s at the dinner table or during the football game, simply talking about your loved one is often what we need most after a loss. Accept that this Thanksgiving will be different. Try to find the balance between moments of grief and moments of joy. Listen to your intuition and only do what you can manage. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing. Grief is hard and tiring. Get plenty of sleep and give yourself permission to let in some joy this Thanksgiving.
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Manheim
Aaron S. Abbott, Supervisor
Lititz
Theodore J. Beck, Supervisor
Mount Joy
Paul L. Gardner, Supervisor